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Writer's Block: A Fruity Synthesis

Sat, 23 Aug 2008 16:09:57 GMT

If you could create a hybrid of any two fruits in the world, what would they be and why? Describe this new fruit (its name, taste, color, ect.)

Submitted By mangostarrr

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For me it would be mango and raspberry. I would call it magsberry :) it would be smaller than mango and it would be pinkish with the same texture as raspberry but not as soft. There would be no need to peal the skin just like with raspberries!

Writer's Block: Being Another Creature

Fri, 25 Jul 2008 19:24:31 GMT

I'd be a lioness bc i love big cats :)

If you could be any creature, any mobile life form at all, which would it be and why?

Submitted By sula_sgeir

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Do You Expect Too Much From Your Relationship?

Wed, 14 Nov 2007 21:40:26 GMT

We all deserve to find people who connect with us, who care for us, who make us laugh, who drive us crazy (in a good way), and who make us feel more excited than a popcorn kernel in a microwave.

Of course, we should all strive for all five qualities, not settle for two or three of the total. That said, many of us have unfair expectations of what relationships are supposed to be like.

Blame it on the movies, or romance novels, or Barbie-and-Ken mythology, but seeking perfection in a relationship isn't noble; it's doomed. Think about the lottery winners: They play with the hope that they'll score big, quit the job, buy a yacht, and party for the rest of their lives.

But the reality for so many mega-bucks winners is that they end up in a dead-end life with relatives clawing at them and bankruptcy lawyers dividing the spoils. Why? Because their expectations of their fantasy life were far different than the reality, and they end up blowing the so-called best thing that ever happened to them.

Same goes for relationships. You may hit lucky sevens with a perfect match, but if you don't manage the fantasy with a dose of reality, your heart will be headed for bankruptcy.

Below, you'll find four key fantasy vs. reality clashes. Make sure you end up on the right side

Expectation: The Fireworks of Romance
Reality: The Fireworks of Conflict

Sure, when sparks fly in a beginning of relationship, you've got oodles of chemistry, hopes, and anticipation. But to think that every day is going to be a barrel of butter-cream icing is just asking for trouble.

If you're experiencing a lot of passion, you need to manage the 180-degree side of that passion-hard-core conflict. While some see conflict as relationship weakness, it can actually be the opposite - a Harvard study, in fact, found that subjects who express their anger have half the risk of heart disease compared with men who internalize it.

It's a sign that you're communicating, a sign that you both care about the relationship, and a sign that you've got sparks, not complacency.

Expectation: The Perfect Package
Reality: Imperfect Behavior

When two people meet "the one," they tell all their friends about all the qualities of the new-found lover: Cute, friendly, compassionate, funny, good job, nice shoes, gorgeous body. In other words, poifect!

Yeah, right, your friends think, and they're probably right. Okay, your new love interest seems to fit 97 of your 100 pieces of criteria for the perfect mate - after the second date. But again, that level of expectation can be an unfair standard that your imperfect companion will never be able to live up to as weeks, months, and years pass.

Better to admire and appreciate the things that made you swoon. Then, it's up to you to manage the warts and worries (in personality, behavior, hygiene, whatever) that will slowly be introduced the more you get to know them.

Expectation: Wild Nights, Sleepy Days
Reality: Wild Days, Sleepy Nights

The joys of dating: Party all night, then lounge around during the day in anticipation of the night ahead. Of course, the initial excitement - about an impending date on the town or a friendly tussle in the bedroom - is one of the main engines that drives the relationship early on.

That power source will wind down a bit once commitment sets in and routine takes over. Fight the impulse to pull away when you start to feel this relationship shift; spending time with a romantic partner can curb work-related stress and lower blood pressure, according to researchers at the University of North Carolina.

The most successful couples are the ones who are able to adapt to the fact that crazy work days, the stress of life, and the daily grind of reality will become a stronger force than all-night talks under the stars.

Expectation: Complete Immersion
Reality: Occasional Diversion

When you start dating someone who drives you to Jack Nicholson levels of craziness, you want total saturation. You want to talk on the phone, you want an inbox full of flirty messages, you want five nights a week of dates, you can't stop thinking about them, and everything you say, do, smell, touch, or eat reminds you of that person.

If that's you, I'm happy for you. That kind of all-consuming infatuation is one of the greatest feelings in life. But it just can't last. And - truth to tell - men may maintain an interest in the NFL, and want to watch a game or two with buds.

Or women may decide that, heck, those end-of-season sales just can't go on without them. Many couples write off those feelings as evidence that they must be falling out of love. I don't see it that way. I see it as falling into reality, and successful couples know how to change their definition of immersion.

In fact, University of Chicago researchers found that those with a wide circle of friends have an easier time dealing with stress and have a lower risk of heart disease than people who rely on only one or two others for support. That is, they don't see immersion as being based on quantity of time together, but rather immersing themselves in each other in whatever time they have-whether it's a lot or not.

For a great look at this process of making real lives work with real love, check out this article, "How to Find Your Way Home," and show it to the man in your life.

Have other ideas for keeping our love life revving-but not too high - sound off here.

Fri, 19 Oct 2007 02:15:20 GMT

I wonder if it could be more painful .....i guess one way to find out.....

love

Thu, 18 Oct 2007 17:08:41 GMT

a question to all who reads this:

DOES LOVE GO AWAY....meaning can u stop care about the person after u are not together anymore.....

may be if you do stop....it wasn't love at all....

I believe real love doesnt go away. It works the same way as energy does....it turns into a different feeling...care perhaps....and if you are indifferent to the person you were with .....maybe you were wrong, maybe it wasn't love...

FOR NORA

Thu, 04 Oct 2007 15:22:48 GMT

http://takhen.livejournal.com/3667.html

????

Fri, 28 Sep 2007 21:43:51 GMT

S CHEGO ETO TI MENYA OPYAT' V FRIENDS ZAPISAL ? ....

Tue, 11 Sep 2007 19:55:39 GMT

Мне нечего сказать, я ухожу,
Я растворяюсь в пелене тумана.
Ты знаешь я тебя не осужу.
Но и не прощу тебе обмана.

Живи как знаешь,
Я тебе никто чтобы совет давать,
С тобой бедь все равно не угадаешь!
Ты сделала мне больно, застаила страдать,
Ты рушишь на своем пути и все ломаешь.

Mon, 10 Sep 2007 15:32:28 GMT

Как давно это было, как давно ты был мой,
Как давно я тебе улыбалась,
Как давно просто так мы гуляли с тобой,
Как давно я всему удивлялась.

Как давно целовал нежно в губы меня,
Как давно ты сказал что ты любишь,
Как давно это было, как давно ты был мой,
Как давно поняла, ты не судишь.

Mon, 10 Sep 2007 14:56:51 GMT

Your Score: 6 - the Questioner

Thanks for taking the test !

you chose CY - your Enneagram type is SIX (aka "The Loyalist").

"I am affectionate and skeptical"

Questioners are responsible, trustworthy, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.

How to Get Along with Me

Be direct and clear.
Listen to me carefully.
Don't judge me for my anxiety.
Work things through with me.
Reassure me that everything is OK between us.
Laugh and make jokes with me.
Gently push me toward new experiences.
Try not to overreact to my overreacting.

What I Like About Being a SIX

being committed and faithful to family and friends
being responsible and hardworking
being compassionate toward others
having intellect and wit
being a nonconformist
confronting danger bravely
being direct and assertive

What's Hard About Being a SIX

the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind
procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself
fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of
exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger
wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right
being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations

SIXes as Children Often

are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn
are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger
form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent
look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel
are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent

SIXes as Parents

are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty
are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence
worry more than most that their children will get hurt
sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

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You are not completely happy with the result?!
You chose CY

Would you rather have chosen:

AY (EIGHT)

BY (FOUR)

CX (TWO)

CZ (ONE)

Link: The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test written by felk on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the The Dating Persona Test

The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
Harper SanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

Explanation

Wed, 05 Sep 2007 13:33:43 GMT

"Я не закрывал глаза на ее недостатки. Наоборот, я еще больше возненавидел их, когда узнал, как ее убииственно аморальная сущность отражается на моем сознании. Но логика и здравыи смысл не имеют ничего общего с эмоциями. С одной стороны, я ее ненавидел, а с другой - никак не мог отделаться от влечения к личности, столь похожей на меня. Во мне заговорили низкие инстинкты - какая бы из нас получилась пара! Разумеется, это невозможно, но кто запретит мне мечтать об этом? Говорят, часто любовь и ненависть стоят рядом, так вот это был тот самый случай."

Tue, 04 Sep 2007 18:13:04 GMT

Your exact female opposite:

The Dirty Little Secret

Deliberate Gentle Sex Master

shmolorful, but unpicked. You are The Wild Rose.

Prone to bouts of cynicism, sarcasm, and thorns, you excite a certain kind of man. Hoping to gather you up, he flirts and winks and asks you out, ultimately professing his love. Then you make him bleed. Why? Because you're the rare, independent, self-sufficient kind of woman who does want love, but not from a weakling.

You don't seem to take yourself too seriously, and that's refreshing. You aren't uptight; you don't over-plan. Romance-wise, sex isn't a top priority--a true relationship would be preferable. For your age, you haven't had a lot of bonafide love experience, though, and this kind of gets to core of the issue. You're very selective.

The problem is them, not you, right? You have lofty standards that few measure up to. You're out there all right, but not to be picked up by just anyone.

Always avoid: The Bachelor (DGSM)

Consider: The Vapor Trail (RBLM)

The Wild Rose

Random Brutal Love Dreamer (RBLD)

Link: The Online Dating Persona Test @ OkCupid - free online dating.

Paul on smoking- day - whatever

Mon, 27 Aug 2007 13:03:58 GMT

Paul is smoking ......

FUCKING 25

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 19:00:47 GMT

You Are A Woman!

Congratulations, you've made it to adulthood.
You're emotionally mature, responsible, and unlikely to act out.
You accept that life is hard - and do your best to keep things upbeat.
This makes you the perfect girlfriend... or even wife!

Are You A Girl Or a Woman?

10 ways women judge men

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 18:35:30 GMT

Did He Dress Well for the Date?

"She's watching to see if you put some energy into your dress and grooming," says Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., a psychologist and sex therapist in Boston. "If you don't take the trouble to dress well for her now, she could see it as disrespectful."

Is He Depressed?

Does he stare at my breasts? Does he have any sense of humor? If you're a total loser, it pays for her to ascertain that on the first date, says Zoldbrod.

Is He Like My Ex?

Yes, we always pay for the last guy's sins. "What women want is often based on their past negative or positive experiences," says Kauffman. So when she talks about past boyfriends, heed well.

Is He Bitter About Past Relationships?

She needs full use of your closets. There's no room for baggage.

Can He Talk About Himself and Listen to Me?

She'll carry 80 percent of the conversation load. Just make sure your 20 percent is about something.

Is He Generous?

Women somehow see a correlation between leaving a 10 percent tip and having a propensity to drown kittens.

Does He Make Me Feel Understood and Appreciated?

If you can't succinctly state her values, her politics, and her ambitions, you're probably failing here. Ask more questions. Listen to the answers this time.

Is He Open to a Relationship but Not Needy?

Ace the other nine criteria here and your odds of appearing needy will edge toward nil.

Does He Keep Promises?

If you're not reliable, you're not viable, especially not for the ultimate goal of all this. . . .

Does He Have the Potential to be a Good Father?

"For long-term potential, she considers whether you have the values she wants in a man," says Jean Koehler, Ph.D., president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. If she can't see tykes on your knee, she's wasting her time. How you interact with your own family can be a strong indicator here.

a true friend (lol)

Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:36:20 GMT

I WANT MY WALLET DAMN IT !!!!!

FOR SUS

Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:31:51 GMT

SUSANNA WRITE

SOMETHING ABOUT

VIRGIN. NORA PROMISED

IFs

Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:25:52 GMT

My IFs are eating me alive. I sleep and dream of IFs. I try to zone them out and live my life, but sometimes it becomes just simply hard. It starts with simple thought of mine and changes to choire. My IFs, my life, i mix them up and try not to go nuts. Sometimes i calm them down good, my IFs i mean, and life becomes so easy, but then a simple thing will triger the come back and we start singing all together.

my life, my ifs and people in between.

ehh, rain doesnt help this at all.

Wed, 15 Aug 2007 18:04:40 GMT

I look into the mirror and I smile. It seems just yesterday my face was red from crying and it was painful to look directly at light.

It seems just yesterday I left the airport swearing to love and wait forever. People on the plain with a question in their eyes would turn the same eyes away from me; it’s not polite to stare.

Oh I didn’t care. My heart was tarred apart and I couldn’t stop the bleeding. Where was I going? I didn’t know. All I could think about was the smell and softness of his skin, the love in his eyes, and the emptiness inside brought by losing it all.

I cried. I cried hugging my mother who cried with me. I cried on my fathers shoulder, still hoping he would change his mind and take me home to my room. Inside, my brain refused to believe in what was happening. I hoped it was a dream.

Eight years later, it feels like it was a dream, a nightmare perhaps that turned to be ok. I look into the mirror and I smile. The feeling of satisfaction is so great I can hardly grasp it. There is so much more to accomplish but so much is already done.

For Sus

Wed, 15 Aug 2007 18:01:22 GMT

I AM YET TO SEE ANYTHING WRITTEN ABOUT VIRGIN (Nora said you will post it here)

WEIRD ART ..please check

Wed, 15 Aug 2007 13:23:03 GMT

http://potw.news.yahoo.com/s/potw/23115/strokes-of-genius

Paul on quiting smoking - Day 11

Tue, 07 Aug 2007 17:39:30 GMT

"all seems quiet on the western front. i've heard the word cigeratte used 4 times by my co-workers. still, the association is no longer what it used to be. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, this i know is real".

Paul on quiting smoking - Day 10

Mon, 06 Aug 2007 16:41:10 GMT

"still going strong. Didn't have a single sadistic thought yesterday. might be ready to start running soon.

rebuilding the walls of sanity, one brick at a time. "

Wed, 01 Aug 2007 21:27:29 GMT

TOMORROW IS THURSDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mon, 30 Jul 2007 15:17:58 GMT

I saw the little Nora man today again LOL. he was wearing an oversized jacket lol poor thing and a pink bow tie (babochka if i got bow tie wrong).